What was the best relationship advice you ever got?

Women are motivated by love and feeling cherished， men are motivated by respect and feeling needed。女人的動機是愛和珍惜，男人的動機是尊重和需要。

When a woman is having a rough day and is opening up to you， don’t immediately give advice。 Women open up because they want men to listen。當一個女人在艱難的一天向你敞開心扉時，不要立刻給她建議。女人敞開心扉是因為她們希望男人傾聽。

When a woman says： “You never care”， “You never make me happy”， “You never apologize”。 She doesn’t literally mean that you never do any of these， this is just how she expresses her feelings in the moment， so take it easy and don’t get defensive。當女人說：“你從不關心我”，“你從不讓我快樂”，“你從不道歉”。她的意思並不是說你從來沒有做過這些事情，這只是她表達感情的方式，所以放鬆點，不要有戒心。

Men sometimes demand the right to have some space from time to time and not to continuously express their feelings when they’re mad。 So don’t pressure。男人有時要求需要一些空間，當他們生氣時不需要不斷地表達他們的感覺。所以不要有壓力。

Contrary to the point above， if a woman is mad at you， encourage her to explain why she is mad， keep encouraging her， and don’t stop until she releases and expresses all the negative feelings。 Because when she does， she will begin to feel happier again and return to her usual loving self。 Again， this ties back to womens’ need to be heard。 This is the secret of solving 99% of arguments。與上面的觀點相反，如果一個女人對你生氣，鼓勵她解釋她為什麼生氣，繼續鼓勵她，直到她釋放並表達出所有的負面情緒。因為當她這樣做的時候，她會再次感到快樂，並回到她通常的自我。再一次，這與女性需要被傾聽有關。這是解決99%爭論的秘訣。

“Never go to sleep when you’re both angry” is a myth。 Sometimes it’s good to step away from a heated conversation and sleep on it。 It allows you to reflect on what went wrong so that it won’t happen again， which is what matters。“永遠不要在你們都生氣的時候睡覺”是錯誤的。有時候，遠離一場激烈的談話，好好睡一覺是有好處的。它能讓你反思出哪裡出了錯，這樣就不會再發生錯誤，這才是最重要的。

Speak their love language。 It’s either physical touch， acts of service， words of affirmation， gifts， or quality time。說出他們表達愛的語言。要麼是身體接觸，要麼是服務行為，要麼是肯定的話語，要麼是禮物，要麼是寶貴的時間。

Never expect that you can change your partner once you get into a relationship。一旦你進入一段關係，永遠不要期望你能改變你的伴侶。

Always show how much you appreciate your partner from time to time。 People crave appreciation more than anything else。時常表達你對伴侶的感激之情。人們最渴望被欣賞。

Never get into a relationship for any of the following reasons： sex， pressure from friends or family， to fill an empty gap in your life， or to become happy。永遠不要因為以下任何一個原因進入一段關係：性，來自朋友或家人的壓力，填補生活中的空白，或者變得快樂。

Always remember this： When you fight， you’re fighting to improve the relationship。 You’re not fighting against each other。 Stop taking things personally。永遠記住：當你吵架時，你是為了改善關係而吵架。你們沒有互相爭鬥。不要往心裡去。

Last but not least，

don’t listen to me.

Only take relationship advice from someone you aspire to become and with a healthy relationship。 If you’re an entrepreneur who works 80+ hours a week， take advice from an entrepreneur who also works 80+ hours a week and yet， has a healthy relationship。 You get the point。最後但同樣重要的是，

不要聽我的。

接受你渴望成為的那個人的建議，並擁有一段健康的關係。如果你是一個每週工作80個小時以上的企業家，那就聽聽同樣每週工作80個小時以上的企業家的建議，他們的關係也很健康。你懂得。

小編zzz總結

多溝通，認真傾聽，感情不會變差哦~

Communicate more， listen carefully， the relationship will not become worse。